Don’t Be Strong

Many of us have internalized the message that we need to be strong. Very often that results in us sweeping our emotions under the rug, trying to ignore them and soldier on. But this only makes us weaker because our bottled up emotions accumulate until one day, the dam bursts and our emotions spill over with the ferocity of a raging flood. Leaving us overwhelmed.

Being strong doesn’t always look like strength. Sometimes being strong is having the courage to be honest with yourself and face those scary emotions. It’s not easy, but the only (healthy) way out is through.

What to say when someone is feeling down

Sometimes we feel helpless when we see our loved ones feeling down. So we go into proactive mode – we try to cheer them up, suggest solutions to their problems, hurry them to feel happier, because we care and don’t like seeing them upset. Unfortunately this can have the opposite effect and make them feel worse, because it feels like you are glossing over their feelings, or implying that their feelings are not valid. If you are not sure what to say or do, maybe try asking “What can I do to help?”. The answer might be a simple “Just sit and listen”.