Sometimes we feel helpless when we see our loved ones feeling down. So we go into proactive mode – we try to cheer them up, suggest solutions to their problems, hurry them to feel happier, because we care and don’t like seeing them upset. Unfortunately this can have the opposite effect and make them feel worse, because it feels like you are glossing over their feelings, or implying that their feelings are not valid. If you are not sure what to say or do, maybe try asking “What can I do to help?”. The answer might be a simple “Just sit and listen”.
We don’t have to feel happy all the time. ‘Negative’ emotions are not the problem, the problem is running from them because we feel like we’re not supposed to have them. But it’s hard to sit with ‘negative’ emotions – it’s much easier when we know we can lean on a friend. If you know someone who is struggling, send them this card and let them know you’re there for them.
Read Part I: Hidden In Plain Sight here.